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The Problem With Social Media

By Joanne Rosa

Social media is something many of us have become so accustomed to; we simply can’t live without it.

If you’re the type of person who can’t live without checking your Facebook when you first wake up, or if you’re obsessively refreshing your Instagram, it may be a problem.

Social media is a huge part of our daily lives and changed the world in many positive ways; but there are some glaring concerns with social media, and what it can do to our mental health.

Psychologist and author Dr. Dale Atkins explains what social media is doing to our health.

When we use social media, Dr. Atkins says, often time’s we are “on it” for longer than expected and compare ourselves and our lives to our “friends”. It’s easy to become anxious while waiting for responses to our latest post or obsessively check our emails, texts, and social feeds more often than necessary.

Does this sound familiar?

You’re not alone.

Here are some of the warning signs people experience when social media is damaging their life and wellbeing.

1. Cannot function or focus well unless we check our social media (i.e. FOMO on social media engagement)
2. Not “present” (i.e. we are physically at a party, but our minds are looking at someone’s trip to Vegas)
3. We are multitasking often while using social media (i.e. scrolling through twitter and talking to someone in the flesh)
4. Conversation changes when using social media (i.e. that person you were talking to now feels a type of way that you were on twitter instead of conversing)

So, why does this happen? How come we would rather be on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest, instead of being in the moment?

Group Of Friends Enjoying Meal In Restaurant

On these social platforms, everyone makes their life look like a fairytale. People can create their own image, rather than leaving it up to the opinion of others. Here’s the problem: most of it isn’t real. Sure, maybe you did go to that rooftop bar or that beautiful tropical vacation. Chances are, those pictures were filtered, airbrushed, or it was simply made out to be something it’s not. This is when we find ourselves comparing our lives to others and it usually doesn’t turn out well. The “critical judgmental voice in our head” speaks up, and tells us why we aren’t good enough. “It can have to do with our intelligence, our appearance, the way we relate and don’t relate to people… We are not as attractive, not living as exciting a life… We don’t trust ourselves… When we expect everything to be great, fabulous, beautiful, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment because it’s not real. There can be great, fabulous, and beautiful moments, and there are other moments that are difficult, challenging, sad, disappointing, etc. That is real life.” Social media is a pre-treated peek of who somebody is, not who they are completely. At the end of the day, we put our pants on one leg at a time. Yes, even Beyoncé.

Yes, we are all human and we all have ups and downs in life. Some people use social media as an outlet to portray their best selves. Some people use social media as a “diary” of sorts. This ranges from the thoughts on their commute, to a glimpse into their private life. Whether you share, or over share, it’s put out there for the world to see. Thanks to freedom of speech, you can do that! Also, people can feel free to insert their opinion, and advice. “It can be risky to share one’s innermost thoughts and feelings with strangers because we leave ourselves open for criticism and opinions from people we do not know and who do not know us… without the whole back story, some advice can be critical, harsh, and based on a superficial view.”

It’s one thing to share a funny story, but when it comes to serious personal issues (like a breakup), it is best to leave it out of social media. Yes, this is a part of your real life. Perhaps you can share your story of what happened once everyone has moved on, and it’s water under the bridge and into the ocean. Until then, try to come to your own decisions without strangers’, acquaintances’, or fair-weather friends’ input.

“If we are constantly putting our lives out there for other people’s commentary (approval/ disapproval)” says Dr. Atkins, “we are less likely to reflect and appreciate our own process of coming to decisions that are right for us based on who we are, our history, our patterns, etc. Growth happens when we know ourselves and work through things.”

Remember, what you think in 2017 may not be what you think in 2027. What you post on social media lives forever!

Not living in the moment is arguably the biggest issue with social media. We see it all the time! Walk into a coffee shop, and watch everyone sit on their phones, tablets, or laptops instead of talking to each other. Walk into a restaurant and look at all of the dates going on. Whether it’s a married couple, or someone on their first date, chances are they are on their phones. Maybe you’re going to a concert or on vacation. How much time do you think you’ll spend getting the right pictures or videos to post? The answer is probably too much time.

Dr. Atkins puts it best, “Seeing the world through a screen and immediately sending it to followers interferes with being present and in the moment… having the experience and allowing [ourselves] to feel what that experience means to us.”

If you want to post something, post a #latergram to share what happened (but don’t be fake).

There is no easy solution for the problems we often experience with social media. We simply need to disconnect more often. Take breaks from social media and focus on what’s going on around you. While you’re working, put your phone in a drawer, and only pick it up if there is an important call ringing on the other line. Social media is a great way to stay updated on friends, news, and communities that interest you, but that doesn’t mean you have to be obsessed with being up to date on everything. Think of a time that works for you to check on your social media, and consider what you are going on it for. Don’t get distracted, and you should be good.

Remember, nearly everything is OK in moderation!

Source: Wendy

New Music: Drake – ‘Signs’

All “Signs” point to more music from Drake.

Three months after More Life, Drizzy teams up with Louis Vuitton on the Noah “40” Shebib-produced “Signs,” which premiered during the designer’s Menswear Spring/Summer 2018 show at Paris Fashion Week today (June 22).

Sticking with a smooth R&B sound, the 6 God emotes about drinking away the pain over mellow production with a bounce. “Champagne with purpose while I’m yawning,” he sings. “You can’t drink all day if you don’t start in the morning / Lord forgive me, I can’t take things slowly.”

As the 7-minute track continues, Drake makes subtle references to Rihanna and Nicki Minaj as well as a not-so-subtle nod to his “real friend,” supermodel Winnie Harlow. “I can’t say no when you say please,” he sings. “You wanna drink like Bajan and dance like Trini / You want a supermodel pose like mi real friend Winnie / Yeah, vacation’s done but I’m not finished.”

Listen to “Signs” below.

Source: www.rap-up.com

New Music: Drake “Signs”

Champagne Papi back

 

It seems the annual Drake “something for the summer” record has arrived! Mr. OVO premiers his new track “Signs” at the Louis Vuitton S/S 2018 menswear runway show at Paris Fashion Week. Produced by 40, this is Drake’s first release since More Life. Will ‘The Boy’ own another summer with this one?

{Song starts at 5:50 mark}

Source: Rap radar

New Music: Goldlink Ft. Gucci Mane, Shy Glizzy & Brent Faiyaz “Crew” Remix

Money all around me

Goldlink has a certified banger on his hands with his “Crew” record. The D.C. native dropped his At What Cost album in March, and this standout single has been making waves. Today we receive the official remix, adding Gucci Mane aka Drop Top Wop to this heater. Goldlink is hitting the road in September for his ‘At What Cost Tour’; dates below.

 

 

GoldLink At What Cost Tour:
9/3 – Nashville, TN @ Exit/In
9/6 – Atlanta, GA Masquerade – Heaven stage
9/7 – Orlando, FL @ Backbooth
9/8 – Miami, FL @ Hangar 305
9/9 – Tampa, FL @ Orpheum
9/10 – Tallahassee, FL @ Potbelly’s
9/13 – New Orleans, LA @ Republic NOLA
9/14 – Houston, TX @ Studio at warehouse live
9/15 – Dallas, TX @ Tree’s
9/16 – Austin, TX @ Grizzley Hall
9/17 – San Antonio, TX @ ACMC
9/20 – Scottsdale, AZ @ Pub Rock
9/21 – Los Angeles, CA @ The Novo
9/22 – Santa Ana, CA @ The Observatory
9/23 – Santa Barbara, CA @ Soho Restaurant & Music Club
9/24 – Santa Cruz, CA @ The Catalyst
9/27 – Vancouver, BC @ Commodore Ballroom
9/28 – Seattle, WA @ Showbox
9/29 – Portland, OR @ Hawthorne Theatre
9/30 – Boise, ID @ Neurolux
10/1 – Salt Lake City, UT @ The Complex
10/3 – Denver, CO @ Cervantes
10/4 – Lawrence, KS @ Granada Theater
10/7 – Madison, WI @ Majestic Theatre
10/8 – Chicago, IL @ Metro
10/10 – Detroit, MI @ The Shelter
10/12 – Boston, MA @ Paradise Rock Club
10/13 – Brooklyn, NY @ Brooklyn Steel
10/14 – Montreal, QC @ L’Astral
10/15 – Philadelphia, PA @ Coda

Source: Rap radar

Hot Topics Rundown: June 22

By Joanne Rosa

Trey Songz in Legal Trouble

mtvU Spring Break 2014 - Day 3

Trey Songz was in court this week for assault and battery of a police officer. The judge ruled that the Snapchat videos Trey posted saying “Eff the police” before the incident, can be used as evidence against him. His trial date is set for September and he faces 4 years in jail.

Jesse Williams’ Nasty Divorce

GQ, Nautica, and Oceana World Oceans Day Party

“Grey’s Anatomy” star Jesse Williams is not looking good. Jesse and his wife Aryn split as rumors surfaced he was dating actress Minka Kelly. Jesse is claiming Aryn is now keeping their kids from him. Aryn allegedly won’t let the kids sleepover and won’t give him a reason why. Aryn’s rep said, “It is unfortunate that Mr. Williams has chosen to draw public attention to this difficult time… therefore, she will not comment any further on Mr. Williams’ unilateral and unfortunate public allegations.”

Madonna and Aboubakar Soumahoro Split

Tidal Launch Event NYC #TIDALforALL

Madonnna and her 26-year-old boyfriend, Soumahoro, have lived together for the past year. Madonna reportedly had enough of him when he tried to co-parent her children. Madonna is now allegedly dating 31 year-old model, Kevin Sampaio.

Source: Wendy

Kim & Kanye Want Baby #3

Kim and Kanye have reportedly hired a surrogate in order to have another baby.

Then, Bachelor in Paradise production will resume after the production was accused of sexual assault. The show will air later this summer.

Plus, O.J. Simpson could be out of jail as early as this fall and Chaka Khan clapped back at Google for their epic fail!

Source: Wendy

Video: Desiigner – ‘Outlet’

Four months after electrifying fans with “Outlet,” Desiigner unleashes the song’s soccer-themed music video.

The clip begins with the “Panda” chart-topper working as a janitor. But once he puts a plug in a socket, everything changes and he’s immediately transported to the field, where he kicks it with French soccer star Paul Pogba.

While Pogba works on his strength, lifting weights, doing chin-ups, and push-ups, Desiigner works on his dance moves, dabbing, jumping, and hittin’ dem folks. The fellow adidas-sponsored stars even get together for a little dance party in the locker room.

Last month, Desiigner teamed up with Mura Masa for “All Around the World.” Before that, he dropped “Thank God I Got It,” “Up,” and “Holy Ghost.” Meanwhile, D is reportedly still working on his G.O.O.D. Music debut.

Source: www.rap-up.com